I am not allowed to have any friends except his friends' wives/girlfriends. I do not go anywhere except to work and the grocery store.When I'm at the grocery store he calls me constantly asking me where I'm at, what I'm doing and when I tell him I'm grocery shopping he wants to know every item in the shopping cart. When I get home from the grocery store with groceries he tells me that I was gone too long and I was lying about being at the grocery store-then asks to see my receipt with the date and time on it and when I show him he still says I'm lying.
He threatens me all the time saying he's going to burn the house down when he finds out who I'm cheating on him with. He tells me he's going to wait outside my work and shoot everyone who comes out. He wants to know every single e-mail and text I get and goes through my phone only to see e-mails from Walmart, Sony and texts from my brother and news alerts. He went through my drawers the other day (underwear/sock, pajama drawers)-said he was looking for his clothes. When I asked him why would his clothes be in with my underwear or pajamas he wants to know why I'm getting so defensive and that I must be hiding something from him. Now everytime I go to grab a clean pair of socks or underwear I notice everything in the drawer is in disaray like someone was rooting through it.
He's told me before that he's going to beat my dad up and shoot my brother because I've told him that neither of them appreciate the way he treats me. The last weekend we had his son I headed to bed a little past 11pm and he "interrogated" me on why I was going to bed at such an early hour on a Saturday night. When I said I was tired because I woke up early to clean the house he called me a cheating mother f*er right in front of his son. During one fight we had when he was accusing me of cheating he actually called his mom and told her that I had a boyfriend-she told him that he was full of it and hung up on him. This isn't even the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the accusations and interrogations.
I don't have any reason to believe that he's cheating because he goes to work and is home shortly after and doesn't go anywhere else. So I don't think he's accusing me because he feels guilty or anything. By the way, he's an alcoholic and a drug addict (currently taking suboxone for pain pill addiction). When I tell him I'm tired of him constantly accusing me of cheating on him and making comments saying I have a boyfriend he tells me that he's just joking. He doesn't help me financially (mortgage, bills, groceries, pet bills, etc) even though he has a job. He blames it on the fact he pays child support and pays for his suboxone program. His mom pays the majority of the child support and he earns more money than I do a year.
He brought a puppy (Milo) home back in October and I pay for everything for him like shots, food, flea preventative, etc.I make sure he has food and water and let him out to go potty.I take him for walks most of the time and make sure he has plenty of toys and chew sticks to keep him occupied while we're at work. Milo sleeps in the bed with us but will only snuggle up next to me. And when my husband has a yelling fit Milo always runs to me for protection thinking he's the one getting yelled at. My husband told me last night that he was taking HIS dog and moving back in with his parents. When I questionned him and said I thought he was the family dog he said no the dog is his.Everything he buys is HIS and everything I buy is ours-according to him.
Lately I've been refusing to have s** with him because I'm just so fed up with him. Not only with the accusations but also the alcohol abuse and not helping financially. He told me all our problems are my fault but when I told him he needs to look at himself and about the accusations he told me I was making it all up because of my birth control pills and the pills are making me crazy. I'm on the verge of telling him to just take Milo and leave since I'm sick of the threats. What should I do and is he even allowed to take anything with him if he does leave?