Your attorney is totally horrible. So horrible, in fact, that I have a hard time believing this. No husband would get 1/2 of a teacher's salary, a lump sum for nothing, and total custody of your kids. And no husband would get part of your aunt's account, just because you are handling the account.
I find it hard to believe that a judge would allow this... have you guys even been to court yet? Your husband's personal friend shouldn't be representing him anyway.
If this is true, you need a new attorney.